The
past two months have been a stressful blur. I have met with two specialists and
my doctor here in Rexburg several times and it has been decided that I will be
having a partial hysterectomy on September 8th. My doctor will go in and remove
the side of the uterus that did not fully develop and the fallopian tube to
prevent pregnancy occurring on that side. It should also help with preventing
endometriosis in the future. I will then begin treatment to get rid of the
remainder of the endometriosis.
Both
of our meetings with the specialists were a little discouraging. They both
agreed that surrogacy would be the safest option for us. I understand why they
are saying that it is the safest option for both me and our future babies, but
it is so hard to give up on something that I have literally wanted for as long
as I can remember. Nate and I are torn on which direction to go. If we choose
to try and get pregnant again, we have to accept that there is greater chance
of another loss than there is of having a successful pregnancy. I will most
likely have to stop working and go on bed rest for the majority of the
pregnancy. I will have my normal OB/GYN, a maternal fetal specialist and a
neonatologist, depending on how early our baby is born. Even with taking all of
these precautions, there is no guarantee that we will come home with a baby. I
don't think there is any way to prepare myself for losing another child.
Every
discussion Nate and I have about whether or not to try again, I end up on a big
puddle of tears. I want to have a healthy baby so badly, but the chances are
slim and I wonder if trying again would be a wise decision. Will I ever
be able to forgive myself if we bring a child into this world that is
underdeveloped and is only kept alive by machines and intensive medical care?
Do we just cross our fingers that everything works out? I know miracles happen
everyday, but I also know that sometimes the miracle that God has for us is
different than the miracle that has been prayed for.
Nate
and I have been talking about which direction to take, but we are still
undecided on trying to have a baby naturally again. I can't imagine going
through the kind of grief that we have experienced with Hunter again. It has
almost been a year since we lost him and it is a constant struggle to choose
happiness over grief. I know that having another baby will never replace him or
fill the emptiness that I feel over losing him, but another child could bring
so much happiness into our lives. After three losses, we are so ready for a
super healthy, super chubby baby!
As always, we are so grateful for the love and support
from all of our friends and family members, as well as the doctors and nurses
helping with our case. We send our love to you all and thank you again for the
outpouring of love and friendship.
Such a hard thing. You are such an inspiration. If ever there was someone I would consider being a surrogate for it would be you two. ;-) All the best in this journey. Prayers for you both and the doctors working with you!
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